“Marriage is like a deck of cards. In the beginning all you need is two hearts and a diamond but by the end you wish you had a club and a spade.

Hi, I’m Hanlie…

And I’m here to tell you about DIVORCE – The untold truth.
A journey from Hell to Health – Step by Step – Explicitly.

Hell hath no fury like the attorney of a woman scorned….


Four out of ten marriages end in divorce before their 10th anniversary
In 2017 the median age of males and females to marry for the first time were 34 and 31 respectively.

Business Insider SA – Helena Wasserman

Interesting fact: More than 44% of men who haven’t been married before are younger than their new wives!!
About (51, 1%) of divorces in 2016 were filed by women, while men filed 34, 2% divorce cases.
About 44, 4% of divorces in 2016 came from marriages that did not spend their tenth wedding anniversary.
The median age to get divorced in 2017 was 44 years for men and 40 years for women.
The Western Cape has the most divorces – more than 6000 in 2017 – despite only 16% of marriages taking place in the Western Cape.
In 2017, 56% of divorces involved children aged less than 18 years.

Accidents are horrible – Moving is traumatic

Divorce is Simply Kak!

Google can’t prepare you for it.
 Books can’t teach you to cope with it.

You’re alone… So…  

Take control….

Join me on my journey from hell to health – a journey during which you will laugh until you cry, be sad until blissfully happy, guttering depression to mountainously happy, consumingly angry to heavenly peaceful… Eventually you will be WHOLE AGAIN – ready to live life – to love unrestrictedly in abundance – the way we all desire and deserve!!

In this blog / vlog you will be faced with the true facts of divorce, the shit that no one ever talks about – the untold truths. The things forever hidden, swept under the carpet – the cruel reality.

It doesn’t matter who was dumped – we all have to deal with –

• Rejection
• Failure
• Not good enough
• Wasted time
• Denial
• Anger
• Sadness
• Gatvolness
• Loss
• Self esteem
• And obviously the legal facts on
• Divorce procedure
• Money matters / Division of the estate
• Interim maintenance
• Children issues

Follow me!!  It will be an enlightening experience. You will learn from my un-censored, un-sugar-coated and horrifically honest description of events, emotions, thoughts and actions.

 A peek into what’s to come…

And so it begins…

• The summons served – the different scenarios based on who instigated the action.
• Finding the right attorney
• So many reasons why…
• The battle of the sexes.

The madness of our emotions

• The Anger  
• The Sadness
• Revenge
• Regrets
• Acceptance 

The madness of our actions

• Desire to change
• Exercising
• Crash dieting
• From facelifts to total lifts…
• The on-line dating….
• Psychological treatment
• Modern Socializing  
• Hypnotherapy
• Sexual emancipation  

​Finding yourself

• Read, read, read…
• Emotional healing
• Music and the soul
• Inspiration

A Complete & Fulfilled Me

You will encounter strange vocabulary with no real meaning other than emotional expression…..word such as Fok, Fokkin, Donnerse,Doos… If you have not uttered (or thought) one of these, you don’t need this blog yet….

 To complete this journey successfully, you have to challenge yourself – follow the advice given from time to time. It will be exhilarating and empowering.

And pass on the message. Someone else may also be struggling to find balance.

 Enjoy the ride.

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DIVORCE – The untold truth

A journey from hell to health
Step by Step – Explicitly Told

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